I was wondering just when this "Sandwich Generation" thing was going to become unmanageable. We have our answer:
After years of doling out cash to help our money-strapped kids, THEIR kids now need expensive dental work. The sort of thing our generation would have let go. After all, those baby teeth will fall out. There is no way my parents would have spent thousands of dollars on bad baby teeth.
Of course the answer is simple: no more cash to give them.
Now for the upper crust of the sandwich.
My MIL is losing it. Really, really losing it. I don't think it looks like Alzheimer's, but more like dementia. On the other hand, there are no outside influences to look into for her memory loss.
She can't hear, and cannot manage hearing aids. She fears the neighborhood is too quiet, so she can't rest at night.
We are finding lunches and suppers left in the microwave. She loses anything that isn't nailed to her hands. Even her stories, which we've heard a million times are starting to suffer from her memory loss.
The only good thing is that others notice it too. Now family is starting to come forward to help. Goodness knows I am stretched beyond the limit.
After two weeks of nonstop coughing, snotting and just feeling gawd-awful, I no longer am able to stop by. I dread what I will find.
It's time to call her, and I am afraid to dial the number. What new problem is waiting? And will it be another unsolvable one? Or will it be another indication that medical intervention is needed?
Will I be able to handle it?
How long will I be able to handle her?